What I Wish Every Parent Knew About ABA

When families first hear about ABA therapy, it often comes with a swirl of emotions: hope, relief, curiosity… and sometimes fear, confusion, or skepticism.
As someone who’s walked alongside countless families — and seen the ups, downs, and quiet victories — here’s what I truly wish every parent knew about ABA:

ABA isn’t a magic wand — it’s a toolbox

ABA won’t “fix” your child — because your child isn’t broken.
Instead, it offers tools: ways to teach skills, reduce behaviors that get in the way, and help your child communicate, connect, and shine in their own way.

Progress may be fast, slow, or zig-zaggy — and that’s okay. Every child’s journey looks different, and that doesn’t mean anyone is failing.

What happens outside of sessions matters just as much

Therapy hours are precious — but real life is where skills stick.
When you practice at home — even in small, everyday ways — your child’s learning grows exponentially.

It doesn’t have to be fancy: praising a new word at dinner, practicing turn-taking during play, or gently prompting a request in the grocery store all matter.

You’re not just a “parent” — you’re part of the team

The best ABA programs don’t just serve the child — they support the family.
Your insights, concerns, and questions are essential.
If something doesn’t feel right, say so.
If you’re not sure why a strategy is used, ask.
A good BCBA wants to hear from you — and adjust plans to fit your family’s real world, not just a clinic room.

ABA has evolved — and should feel respectful

Modern, ethical ABA focuses on meaningful skills, using reinforcement and relationship-based strategies.

Your child should never feel forced, shamed, or afraid.
If something ever feels uncomfortable or wrong, speak up. Good ABA listens, adapts, and keeps your child’s dignity front and center.

Celebrate the “small” wins

The first time your child points to request, makes eye contact, or says “more” instead of crying — these moments might look tiny to the world, but they are enormous.

It’s okay to feel emotional about them. You’ve earned that joy.

Your child is still your child

Even as you track data, set goals, and navigate therapy schedules — remember to just be with your child.
Snuggle, giggle, play silly games, or sit quietly together.

Because the heart of ABA isn’t about changing who your child is — it’s about giving them more ways to share who they already are.

If you remember one thing…

ABA isn’t about perfection — it’s about progress, connection, and hope.

And no matter where you start, know this: you’re not alone on the journey.
We’re here, cheering for your child, and for you — every single step of the way.